Hi, My name is Ann Sockol.
I am a Registered Nurse who has gone through the baptism of being a caregiver too. My Dad had been disabled since I was a child, and I always helped my Mom care for him. Then Mom, who was his primary caregiver for so many years, passed. My Dad went through a rough time. His needs changed and my role changed too. During the next 10 years I became even more dedicated to him. The last 5 years of his life he became very ill and caregiving became full time.
None of this stopped me from needing to work full time, run my own business, and answer to multiple responsibilities as we all do in todays busy and complicated world.
When my Dad first became seriously ill during those last 5 years, it was during a stay with me. He had a “Crisis” which continued to spiral downwards. Even though I was in the caregiving mode for so long, the sudden thrust of a serious and life-changing event was very difficult. He spent many months out of the year with me, but he lived in another city. Therefore I did not have all the practical things we would need for this crisis with me at the time. I was faced with having to improvise for intense and long term care needs on the spot, continue to work, and plan for our future. In the end he spent one year with me in my living room with medical equipment, going in and out of the hospital, surgeries, therapies, you name it. When he was stable enough we went back to his home to care for him there. I gave up my business, my work, my support and my life.
None of that mattered; I wanted to perform this service. Once we were “back home” there continued to be hospitalizations, and even 2 stays at nursing homes. I gradually learned how to navigate the Medicaid and Veterans system to get financial and then in home help as well.
None of it was easy.
After my Dad passed, I decided there had to be an easier way. I wanted to provide caregiver support to make the caregiving journey less traumatic and more fulfilling for all. I wanted to help caregivers be successful and survive without losing important aspects of their lives, such as their own health and even their families.
My nursing career had been focused on caring for seniors and their families for over 10 years including working in Nursing Homes, Assisted Living and Rehab facilities, and consulting to these facilities on best practices to keep residents safe. After becoming a Certified Life Coach I decided to combine my nursing experience with coaching to create a Caregiver Lifeline Program which offers caregivers that critical support and connection we need, and provides an “Expert” and understanding ear for caregivers to turn to directly.
During my time as a caregiver I found that my spiritual grounding was critical to my survival. It especially helped me to accept my caregiving role and perform my service with a positive and joyful attitude. It provided the strength and inspiration I needed to go through this difficult time, and is something I still draw on.
Finding and staying connected to that spirituality is an integral part of the Caregiver Lifeline Program. You can change your experience from one of struggle to one of joy and peace with that acceptance, and truly know you are on a Sacred and Heroic Caregiver Mission.
My Personal Mission and Spiritual Intention is to BE your Lifeline of Support. Welcome!
Hi, my name is Maxine and I am a Medical Paralegal who also not only has gone through caregiving for my own Dad, but still currently care for my Mom as well. My caregiving came to me completely unexpected; the true “Bolt Out of the Blue” experience.
I was blessed enough to have been living in Hawaii at the time that my parents, who were in good health as far as I knew, came to visit.
They had visited before, and we always had a fantastic time. Over the years I had been there, they came to love Hawaii too. The friendliness of the people, their natural grace and acceptance of all,which they call the Aloha Sprit, we truly enjoyed.
While they were there my Dad got ill, and he ended up with emergency surgery, months in Intensive Care, and then he passed. My Mom and I were both in shock. We survived because of the Community and love that the people there gave to us, including providing support during the time in the hospital, and even providing a beautiful Hawaiian burial at sea for my Dad since they had NO funeral arrangements at all so far from their home.
Afterwards the support continued when the immediate community continued to care for my mom every day so I could go to work. The amazing thing is that I didn’t even KNOW these people before. They just volunteered to be there in a time of need, and they truly stayed the course with us for months.
I eventually gave up my life in Hawaii because my Mom wanted to come home, but we both later regretted this decision. That is because we had come to realize the importance of Community, of Support and of those who truly care. It is hard to be alone and isolated during these years. It is hard for both the loved one and the caregiver.
I was looking for a way to bring that sense of Community and Support into our lives when I met Ann. Together we were passionate about creating a nurturing and supportive experience for caregivers and families. The Caregiver Lifeline Program does that. When you join the Caregiver Lifeline Community, you are connected to a Community of Support.
In my paralegal career I worked with families who had experienced difficulties in senior home care environments. I became expert at researching and recognizing which facilities were providing safe and caring services and which were not. I worked with attorneys to bring balance back to those families, and helped stand up and fight for safer care for seniors.
My Mission and Intention is to guide seniors and their families through the pitfalls of senior care, help them stand up for their rights, and spread Community to others.
PS., don’t be surprised to find a few Hawaiian gems of wisdom to support you in a very unique way, and a lot of the Aloha Spirit.